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Desire

Wanting, which can exist with or without Love and is closer to an impulse than a discrete emotion.

ambivalenthigh activation

How it shows up

Desire can be for a person, food, rest, an object, an achievement, or a sensation. It often shows up as focused attention, imagining having the thing, and a pull to move toward it. Desire seems to energize pursuit of what we value or need. Because it works more like a pull than a settled feeling, it can feel urgent and then fade quickly once satisfied.

How it differs from Love

Love is lasting care for another person; desire is wanting, and it can show up with love, without it, or for things that are not people at all.

Notice

Notice how desire changes your attention, and what happens to it once the thing is near.

Where it is felt

Felt most in the chest, stomach and whole body.

Based on Nummenmaa et al. (2014), bodily maps of emotions, and related research. The map shows where people report bodily sensation, on average; individual experience varies.